Do you have any problems with your self-worth? No worries! I understand how you feel, so I'll give you some tips to deal with any problems with your self-worth.
Now, keep in mind that not all methods work perfectly, some methods may work for some people, but some won't. That's why I'm offering five methods instead of just one, so you can experiment with it for yourself and see which ones work best for you, personally.
Now, let me give you some advice, not as a professional (Because I'm like 10 years too early for that), but as a fellow human who has gone through these issues before.
1. Surround yourself with friends.
Now, I know this sounds a bit cliché, but it actually works. If you surround yourself with people you trust at your times of need, you'll find that depressive episodes will pass faster. Of course, this isn't, by any means, a way to completely eliminate feelings of self-loathing, but with friends to support you, perhaps you'll find that you hate yourself just a little bit less.
Personally, I never liked this method because it relies on other people who may not necessarily be always available. Probably also because I never really had a lot of friends. But hey, if you tend to be more extroverted than introverted, this method would probably work out better for you than it did for me.
Now you're probably wondering how I know this actually works. Well, I have two words for you: Empirical Evidence. I've been one of the many "friends" that people surround themselves with, and I've observed improvements in their mood and attitude towards life.
2. Write your thoughts out in a diary or journal and read it a few days later.
I think this occurs to many people, but if you don't understand why this helps, I'll explain.
When you're going through a period of self-loathing, your thinking tends to become progressively more pessimistic, and many people wouldn't be able to think straight during depressive episodes. However, by writing down the exact thoughts you have going through your mind at the time and then reviewing them a few days later after you calm down is a good way to view your thoughts more objectively.
I did this a few times myself, and... wow. Sometimes I just couldn't believe how irrational my mind gets when I enter one of my depressive episodes. I'm being serious, you're never rational when you're depressed. You tend to interpret things in the worst way possible, you lose your ability to rationalize, and, in worst-case scenarios, you don't even realize that you're going through a depressive episode.
Those worst-case scenarios are usually what can completely blow this method out of the water, so don't use this method if you don't think you're depressed. Then again, I can't imagine why you would look at this post except to look for mental health support.
3. Reminisce about good memories and the people you had them with.
Once again, somewhat cliché, but it still works. On the one hand, this method is a good grounding tactic that can remind you that you've had good memories before, therefore, God (Or whatever greater power you believe in, I guess) has deemed you to be deserving of those good memories.
On the other hand, you may want to rely on a friend for this one, because people hardly think to remember good times when they're depressed. How should I put it? It's similar to asking a flailing fish on land to remember to breathe. It's practically impossible without help.
Me, personally? I've had to do this one too. The only difference is that I make a habit of reviewing my memories every so often so I don't have to rely on others to remind me to do it. At the same time, it's not really a grounding tactic for me, since I'm atheist, but it does allow me to reorganize my thoughts so I don't get too irrational in my depressive episodes.
4. Listen to some angsty music... or something.
Look, this one is probably a bit of a stretch, but personally, for me, this one works out quite alright.
If music doesn't do it for you, or you just don't know any artists who compose music like that, you could also go onto YouTube and search something up, like a comic dub or animation or something.
I dunno, there's something about witnessing other people suffer from self-esteem issues that makes me feel better about myself. Maybe I'm just weird, so feel free to ignore this one.
You could give this tactic a genuine shot, but it probably won't amount to much. Alternatively, instead of listening to angsty music, you could play some improvised music alone in your room. Now, this one works better because it comes from the heart, and it allows you to get some negative feelings off your chest, for the most part.
Obviously, if you don't know how to play an instrument, you could always just sing and freestyle, if you so desire.
5. Go outside, touch some grass.
No, this isn't an insult, I'm actually being serious here. If you're feeling depressed, just go outside and take a walk. Now, I understand that when you're depressed, you instinctively shut yourself in, whether it's your room or your study or wherever you find comfort.
Don't do that. You want to get over your depressive episode? Go outside and walk around the block a few times. It gives you an opportunity to be alone with your thoughts so you can organize them easier, not to mention a breath of fresh air might be just what you need to clear your mind of all your self-depreciating thoughts.
Also, the active exercise can actually take your mind off of whatever is troubling you. Go ahead and try it, you might actually like it. Who knows? Maybe you'll even make a habit out of it.
So there you go, five methods with varying levels of reliability presented to you. Go and experiment with them, have fun, and remember: You're worth every ounce of fortune that you've gotten.
This is The Founder, signing out.
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